Edit: my paragraphs are all over the place... sorry, this is on mobile.

I think the “be nice” mantra is shoved much harder onto the marginalized or less powerful people.

For example, it’s been “trendy” to hate single mothers for a while. Single mothers, meanwhile, are demanded to be accepting and welcoming to all walks of vermin and sexually depraved monsters, abusers, etc. Vulnerable women of all stripes are expected to always grovel and thank people and bend over backwards to please them.

The hyper coddling of boys is downright dangerous.

I have no problems with LGB folks living in peace, or normal trans people living in peace. I’m chill with people behaving outside the christian conservative ideal, but the push for us to embrace sexual depravity (especially 24/7 porn and the behaviors depicted in it) and to coddle everyone’s kinks in general is harmful to women. People will attack you like crazy if you critique their precious porn. The denial about the harmful nature of it is unreal.

I am probably aging myself, though. My parents were silent generation. I couldn’t sneeze without being criticized or corrected. Somehow I became numb to it, or something.. but if a person can’t handle any criticism at all, I’d say there’s also some kind of mental illness/anxiety lurking underneath. Perhaps a lot of people were coddled excessively (at least in the US) due to teachers being forced to accommodate to each and every random “disability” every child had in the classroom. I KNOW many teachers experience extreme difficulty correcting or disciplining students due to hyper protective parents and aspects of the ADA.

Not that kids don’t have legit disabilities, but the teachers I’ve known said many parents would abuse this and force teachers to allow their kids to pass subjects without really passing.

I had ADHD diagnosed as an adult. I had to drag my own ass into getting a 3.8 by the time I was in HS. No help, no diagnosis, just lectures and screaming at my poor grades. My parents were old school and wouldn’t have gotten me a diagnosis, let alone hired a tutor or would have told the teacher to be nice to me and give me better grades.

While I would have benefitted off an IEP, who knows if my work ethic would have been as good. My guess is it wouldn’t have been, since other people my age and slightly younger don’t seem to have much of one in the field I’m in.