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[–]Realwoman 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

You're not "responsible" for your fear, fear is a normal, primal emotion that is absolutely necessary for survival. And you're right to be wary of men because men are dangerous.

I have been followed by men of different ages several times. It was very scary.

[–]emissch[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yeah, I guess I've had push back from people when I explain why i get on edge and they tell me I shouldn't feel that way or I'm even being sexist against men.

[–]malleus_maleficarum 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Other people do not get to dictate the risk level you are comfortable with. You can't know for sure if a man has good intentions, and it's not your responsibility to prioritize his potential butthurt feelings over your safety. If he's a decent man, he is aware that his presence can make lone women nervous. I know plenty of dudes who will hang back to create a safer distance, or cross the street to pose less of a threat.

Have you heard the term "Schrödinger’s Rapist"? This article made waves ~10 years ago. The author has made the original post private so here is the archive link:

"Schrödinger’s Rapist: or a guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced" https://archive.fo/6men0