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[–]Omina_Sentenziosa 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

This was a question that we had often in the debate sub. I have never seen anyone there saying they have seen it happen.

I personally have seen a GCer in the former main sub who one day went to a trans sub and begged them to "deterf" her, but it wasn't because she suddenly realized that GC ideology was wrong, she did it because she was tired of being considered evil and on the wrong side of history.

A couple of months ago there was a story about a woman who called GC communities a cult made to provide brides to powerful lesbians. She started "bragging" about breaking free from the GC grasps... but I don't think she is a good example of stability and clear mind.

Long story short, it doesn't seem like GCers who stop believing in GC ideology are a thing that happens often or even rarely, the ones who change sides do it usually because they have issues with how "mean" the community is or are tired of being attacked.

[–]lairacunda 7 insightful - 6 fun7 insightful - 5 fun8 insightful - 6 fun -  (4 children)

"deterf", LMAO

[–]Omina_Sentenziosa 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

That post of hers I have seen was absolutely nuts.

It was also heartbreaking: I don't remember her username, but I remember that she always posted amazing comments full of links to great resources.

The fact that she was literally begging them, prostrating herself and apologizing to GenCyn users was just hard to watch.

[–]lairacunda 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

One of the hardest things for me about being a GC radfem is the ostracism and the isolation. In my heart I have wished many times I had the naiveté that allows so many to have a wider community. At least I'm real.

[–]Omina_Sentenziosa 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I am thankfully blessed with people in my life who either don't care about this topic or agree with me, so I have never had that particular problem.

My biggest issue with being GC is the fact that I feel like I am taking crazy pills. But having people around me who keep me grounded helps a lot.

I understand how someone could prefer pretending that all the stuff you see are just not there. But I don't think you can if you want to keep your sanity. In the long run, I think that keeping up that fa¢ade is much more detrimental than being alone. And believe me, I have tried to live this like that, at least in the beginning. I just couldn't. The Stepford Smiler trope has always been incredibly creepy to me, and no matter how much I tried to just ignore everything, I just couldn't unsee it.

But again, this comes from someone who doesn't have the problem of feeling isolated and probably constantly attacked to begin with. Who knows how I would react if everyone in my life kept telling me I am a disgusting piece of shit, that I am wrong, that I deserve the worst things possible. I don't have the presumption to consider myself stronger than that poster, I just found it incredibly sad that such a smart and resourceful woman felt the need to beg for help a bunch of assholes who would happily torch her for wrong thinking.

[–]lairacunda 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Stepford Smiler trope I'm stealing that!

She's got some version of Stockholm Syndrome. She probably couldn't stand knowing what she knows.