All: Disclosure and Consent

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[–]circlingmyownvoid2 4 insightful - 6 fun4 insightful - 5 fun5 insightful - 6 fun -  (2 children)

I think before any sexual contact, we should disclose to possible partners.

However I don’t think it should be required before you at least have enough of a conversation to get the sense whether they would hurt you or potentially do something like expose you.

It’s not rape or sexual assault, but I do think it’s wrong to have sex with someone without disclosing.

It would of course be safer not to disclose but I still don’t think it’s fair. I would put it on par with not telling them you are married. Like it could effect whether they wanted to be with you so you should tell them but it isn’t rape not to.

[–]loveSloaneDebate King[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I disagree about it not being assault and I think it’s more severe than not disclosing marital status but I think we both knew we’d not agree here lol.

I do wonder though, how do you get a sense of whether or not someone will be likely to hurt/expose you? I understand the precaution and I’m not at all saying not to take it, I’m just wondering how you get a feel for that, to know whether it’s safe to go out with them and disclose or to not? I meant to ask Peaking but I forgot lol so I’m asking you (anyone can answer). I can’t begin to imagine how I’d figure that out.

[–]circlingmyownvoid2 5 insightful - 6 fun5 insightful - 5 fun6 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

You get a baseline on their politics, and how violent they might be through general conversation maybe mention some famous trans people and see how they react. Like if you are discussing music mention Laura Jane Grace as a musician you like. Things like that.