Ahh that's a really interesting way to think of that, like "change" is more something you uncover or learn about yourself? Looking at things that way, it seems like then there would in fact be facets of our self-conceptualization that could not actually change--am I understanding correctly? That's rather thought-provoking. So, in your case, would you say your sexual orientation really was/is unchangeable all along, you only learned that about yourself? In kind of the way Sloane put it, I view sexual orientation as more "what" you are than "who" you are, and truly unchangeable, but your self-concept and the way you see yourself in relation to it is what evolved (or you learned about yourself).

Do you think then every aspect of your self-concept or the way you see yourself is what can become different over time? I hope I'm not putting words in your mouth or misunderstanding you.