All: Are there aspects of self-concept or identity that are unchangeable?

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[–]loveSloaneDebate King 9 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

I think people constantly change. Life experience, loss, moving, growing older, etc all of the things we go through in life, even if we don’t endure major trauma or accomplish any huge scale feats, the longer someone lives the more they will change. The Sloane from 10 years ago wouldn’t recognize me today, I’ve changed so much and In so many different ways.

I think every aspect of who we are and how we see ourselves can be changed, but the reality of what we are can’t. Meaning, I could be broke, and see myself as poor, or see myself as “rich” because I have everything I need, my dream career, and a home and loving family- either way my bank account balance is the same. So I think our perspective can change, no matter the circumstances.

Idk if I interpreted your post correctly lol

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

No no, thank you! I'm sorry if I worded this too vaguely/poorly, but your answer is fantastic! I'd agree that we do constantly change, and in fact need to be able to in order to endure and overcome hardships and to evolve and grow throughout our lives. I mostly agree too that the reality of what we are can't change, with some exceptions, such as becoming disabled in some way, but the main truth of our bodies, experiences and environments can't be altered. Your example illustrates that well.

I wanted to write this long anecdote involving apples in response, but re-reading your example made me realize you actually already answered the question I was about to ask (I hope that makes sense!)

[–]loveSloaneDebate King 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

You worded it well, I think I was just coming off of the other post and trying to tie this one into the “gender/sex debate” theme of the sub lol

This is a great post! I think it was a much needed change of pace, considering how tense things have been getting lately.

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Well thank you very much! Honestly, that's part of the reason why I made the post 😂 I mean I really had wanted to ask this question anyways though. And I wanted to ask something that I think everyone from all sides have experienced, but I really wanted to get more into the root of the idea and deeper meaning of identity rather than hyperfocus on "gender identity" or "sexual identity", I probably should have included something about that in the OP.