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[–]DogeWalker 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Did you read the comments on Ovarit? I think the one at the top sums up the issue at hand:

"Friendly reminder" or "just a reminder" is newspeak for authoritarian brainwashing incoming: comply or be harassed.

It's simply a little bit disturbing to require this sort of approval from any group, and it's even more insulting to people who are exclusively same-sex attracted.

Imagine being a straight man and having gay men repeatedly insist, "It's fine if you choose not to date another man!" Frankly, I find it hard to imagine that happening... because no one is telling straight men that they are "allowed" to not kiss other men if they don't want to. (It's simply assumed that straight men would never be interested in that, so nobody feels the need to explain that they have "permission.")

If that's too much to imagine, then think of going on a first date with someone, and at the beginning of the date, the person says: "Look, it's totally fine if you don't want to fuck me tonight, so don't worry... I won't tell everyone that you are a monster of a person if you don't fuck me tonight, right after this date. So we good?"

Do you feel comfortable after that? Would you feel relieved for the rest of the night, or would you find the insistence off-putting and a bit weird?

[–]GenderbenderShe/her/hers[S] 1 insightful - 5 fun1 insightful - 4 fun2 insightful - 5 fun -  (1 child)

If that's too much to imagine, then think of going on a first date with someone, and at the beginning of the date, the person says: "Look, it's totally fine if you don't want to fuck me tonight, so don't worry... I won't tell everyone that you are a monster of a person if you don't fuck me tonight, right after this date. So we good?"

If my first date insisted they had to fuck me tonight, I might say "it's totally fine if you don't want to fuck me tonight" Out of nowhere? No. They're not making these comments out of nowhere, they're making these comments in response to transphobia, and because of the fact that many gay men claimed they will be forced to sleep with trans men. I know there are people who say refusing to sleep with trans people is transphobia, but why pick a thread that's trying to curb such behavior?

[–]DogeWalker 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I know there are people who would not mind being pressured in that way, but why pick only one part of my comment to respond to?