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[–]peakingatthemomentTranssexual (natal male), HSTS[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Maybe I would care about the issues we would have as a couple, and that would be something to ponder on when deciding whether or not to pursue a relationship.

And those are like a totally valid concerns too. In many ways, I feel like hardest part about having to tell a guy I was dating I was trans practically is that it meant that we could never have children (the regular way at least).

[–]Omina_SentenziosaSarcastic Ovalord 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yeah, I mean, I think that whatever reason you have to turn down a relationship comes first. I can agree or disagree with one of those reasons, but in the end a person' s decision is more important than anything else.

What I meant is that I think I would focus on the practical issues more than the psychological ones if I were to choose whether to pursue a relationship with a woman or not. I could see myself turning down that relationship for not being strong enough to face the intolerance, for example, or, like you said, for not being able to have children with her (I am not a huge fan of sperm donation and I don' t think I would be able to go through adoption). But I don' t think I would turn it down because I would freak out about the switch from heterosexual to bisexual.

[–]peakingatthemomentTranssexual (natal male), HSTS[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think that whatever reason you have to turn down a relationship comes first

100%

What I meant is that I think I would focus on the practical issues more than the psychological ones if I were to choose whether to pursue a relationship with a woman or not.

Okay, I feel like I understand. To me, your approach is the healthiest one because being straight or bi or gay should be totally neutral things..