These points that you've brought out is why a lot of women don't call themselves feminists, myself included. It's funny, I'm about as pro-women's rights as they come, my interests lie in traditionally masculine fields so sexism will be a bigger issue for me in my career than it would be for most women. However, I also can't stand by nonsense like word policing and the denial that women and men have different brains and a different temperament. In fact, I see biological differences as the number one cause of both the patriarchy and whatever it is this sub considers the correct word for the sex changer people. For a woman's offspring to survive in nature, she has to avoid getting into any sort of conflicts, not just in the sense of not harming herself physically, but also because pregnancy is a dangerous time and she will need support from others. Women can't afford to settle things with open conflict like men, so appeasement and using language is all women have. Now it's being used against us and quite frankly I find men being so openly gleeful about it to be a bit sickening. I loathe western feminism as well, but I also see why it is what it is, and it's at least partially the fault of evolution.