Without confidence there can be no respect. Without respect there can be no love. Without love there can be no relationship and this tends to apply to marriages as well. What goes wrong during a marriage that endures nearly two decades, for a middle aged wife to believe that the problem can be solved by destroying the family? I mean, sure she's ok looking for a gal in her forties, but she's not going to do as well with any other guy as she did with her ex-husband.