We are making an idol of the nuclear family

submitted by Vulptex from self.Christianity

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[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (16 children)

If you adopt children of different race their school can teach them to hate you. Without a large united family, you're powerless. Unless you have a good celibacy technique, staying single will make you sin, one way or another.

[–]whistlepig 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I disagree with your conclusion, but I agree that there is security in numbers and that is a big plus in having a family.

[–]Vulptex[S] 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (14 children)

Children aren't going to believe a teacher over a parent. And why would being single make you sin? Are married couples, particularly those that follow the norm of working man, housewife, and 2.5 kids, somehow immune to the clutches of evil?

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (13 children)

Children aren't going to believe a teacher over a parent.

One teacher, no. All teachers, mass media and their peers, yes. Has happened, keeps happening.

And why would being single make you sin?

Because lust exists. Common ways to deal with it increase your separation from God.

somehow immune to the clutches of evil

Not immune, but having a way to deal with your natural needs seems helpful.

[–]Vulptex[S] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (12 children)

One teacher, no. All teachers, mass media and their peers, yes. Has happened, keeps happening.

They may initially, but children are hardwired to trust their parents. This can be bad if they tell them something wrong, but it also means a parent can easily shatter any lies the system tells them.

Because lust exists. Common ways to deal with it increase your separation from God.

Yeah, and getting married doesn't stop it, nor does having a family specifically of a working man, a housewife, 2.5 kids, and a suburban home. If it did then adultery wouldn't be a thing.

Not immune, but having a way to deal with your natural needs seems helpful.

There are other releases besides lust and fornication. If you can't do that it shows something about one person, you, and in that case it's better to marry than to burn. But don't go generalizing, some people don't even have a desire for sex at all.

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (11 children)

They may initially, but children are hardwired to trust their parents. This can be bad if they tell them something wrong, but it also means a parent can easily shatter any lies the system tells them.

They will follow their parents for the first 10 years. But they are constantly observing their tribe in search of compatible authority figures. Once these authorities are found, children will learn from them instead.

Yeah, and getting married doesn't stop it, nor does having a family specifically of a working man, a housewife, 2.5 kids, and a suburban home. If it did then adultery wouldn't be a thing.

Yeah, modern families aren't very useful. The original version was more helpful. The original idea. Not sure how many people have actually tried it.

[–]Vulptex[S] 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (10 children)

They will follow their parents for the first 10 years. But they are constantly observing their tribe in search of compatible authority figures. Once these authorities are found, children will learn from them instead.

They'll learn from all of them, but those first 10 years are still the most fundamental framework. They would have to legit decide differently for themselves.

Yeah, modern families aren't very useful. The original version was more helpful. The original idea. Not sure how many people have actually tried it.

Wdym?

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (9 children)

They'll learn from all of them, but those first 10 years are still the most fundamental framework. They would have to legit decide differently for themselves.

If the parents have no power in their society, children will instinctively avoid their advice.

Wdym?

Large families with many relatives, men and women do their own thing.

[–]Vulptex[S] 1 insightful - 3 fun1 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 3 fun -  (8 children)

If the parents have no power in their society, children will instinctively avoid their advice.

They live with them their whole childhood, of course they're going to listen to them.

Large families with many relatives, men and women do their own thing.

Everyone I know has many relatives. And what do you suggest is "their own thing"?

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

They live with them their whole childhood, of course they're going to listen to them.

As long as the parents obediently repeat whatever the ruling party says, and even then, they won't necessary stay very close.

And what do you suggest is "their own thing"?

Internal matters, external matters, actually cultivating the relationship.

[–]Vulptex[S] 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (6 children)

As long as the parents obediently repeat whatever the ruling party says, and even then, they won't necessary stay very close.

No, everyone I know who buys the elites' bs does so because their parents also did. It's literally hardwired into children to cling to their parents, which never fully subsides even in adulthood.

Internal matters, external matters, actually cultivating the relationship.

Are you saying people should only marry within their family?