Is anyone out there/thoughts on biphobia

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[–]BiHorror 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

If anyone can direct me to a more active space

Hello! I can direct you to s/LGBDROPTHET which is more active. Although, it's not bisexual centric, it's all three sexualities but there's a bisexual flare you can use for posts to specify about issues and such centering bisexuals!

what the people here would consider real biphobia to be like?

What I consider to be biphobia would be believing bisexuality doesn't exist (the whole "they can't choose one, it's just selfishness!" type of stuff if that makes sense), bisexuality is just for attention seeking, forced to choose between gay or straight, stereotypes, etc. Basically, alike to homophobia in some aspects but replace it with biphobia. I also consider biphobia when people pull the "gender identity" and pansexuality bullshit. Bisexual people aren't attracted to "gender identity," they're attracted to primary and secondary sexes dammit.

What are some unique challenges we face, and how could we go about addressing them given the current climate around these issues?

As for any unique issues of right now, I haven't really connected with other bisexuals (can't really when there isn't a stable community for it) but on the saidit sub I gave you, there's a post relating to health issues and bisexuals. If you like, I can get it for you. Other than that, I think the whole trying to appropiate the definition of bisexuality to include "gender identity" is an issue. Especially when people pull put that shitty "Bisexual Manifesto" as an excuse, since that obviously and truly speaks for all bis. As for how we go about addressing it... Good question.

How do you navigate both straight and same-sex dating as a bi person right now?

I'm het-leaning, and not currently dating. I'm not exactly sure how to answer this, I mean, when I was dating, I just got into the relationship (I dated more women than men despite being het leaning) and was honest with them. I'm bisexual who's het leaning. If they wished to continue to date, then we did, and if we didn't? Alright, that's fine. I think if I were to open up to dating again, it would probably be with other bisexuals tho. Especially considering the whole lesbians/gays vs bisexuals climate going on.

[–]Constantine[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Thank you! I'm already pretty active on there. I was hoping to find something along the lines of r/truebisexuals since I wasn't involved with that before it was banned, but DroptheT has been a good substitute!

I'm bisexual who's het leaning. If they wished to continue to date, then we did, and if we didn't? Alright, that's fine. I think if I were to open up to dating again, it would probably be with other bisexuals tho. Especially considering the whole lesbians/gays vs bisexuals climate going on.

Yeah, this is kind of my problem. The bi people I know are all pretty nuts and wrapped up in the "queer" bullshit, while the lesbians are understandably wary of us. And don't even get me started on straight men.

[–]BiHorror 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, this is kind of my problem. The bi people I know are all pretty nuts and wrapped up in the "queer" bullshit,

Unfortunately, I don't know any bisexuals but I've seen the nuts cases online tho. Especially with the whole "attracted to gender (identity)" despite bisexual literally has SEX in it. Then you got the whole "pansexual" thing, which while are annoying, I rather have the genderqUeErs go with them.

while the lesbians are understandably wary of us. And don't even get me started on straight men

Yeah, understandable, even tho I have seen where some take it over the top and it becomes biphobia. Then those types of straight men... Ugh.

[–]PenseePansy 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

on the saidit sub I gave you, there's a post relating to health issues and bisexuals.

Hey, was that my post? The LG's dismissive reaction (or should I say NONreaction) to which put me in a funk for DAYS?

[–]BiHorror 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Was it your post? I don't know. I think the only reaction (if I'm remembering correctly) that was there and pretty okay was Lizard's.

[–]PenseePansy 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Sure sounds familiar! Here it is BTW:

https://saidit.net/s/LGBDropTheT/comments/6gjr/are_bi_people_esp_at_risk_health_etc/

And yeah, Lizard's response was certainly one of the few bright spots (he always seems to stand up for bi people against LG shittiness). Also appreciated ElectricSheep's thoughtful input (and the fact that this really "introduced" us).

[–]BiHorror 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, while he does have (to me personally) quite the opinions of homosexuality, he is quite the darling when it comes to standing up against some LG who can be shitty. ElectricSheep's was also nice to see. Unfortunately, it feels like he's the only bi man here. I mostly see bi women on LGBDropTheT.

Edit: know reading back on it made me feel as if I got sucker punched in the stomach on where he stands within the article since I know I majority fit those.