Is it gay if as a cis man I fuck trans women?

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[–]gloomy_bear 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

I would say they're at least bisexual tbh. I'm somebody that prefers feminity and I call myself bisexual due to preferring both feminine females and feminine males. Of course, masculinity can be attractive, but it's very rare for me to be attracted to masculine males and females. Ironically enough, I've only dated two masculine males and one masculine presenting female (but tbh I wonder if she's genuinely feminine).

Of course, if a man likes a transwoman, I don't have any issue with that. The issue is when they dance around the topic and end up playing mental gymnastics on how it's not homosexual sex (if the transsexual is pre-op). Kinda reminds me of those fakebians and bihets who dance around on how they're totally TRUE AND HONEST homosexuals despite being attracted to men.

Fuck the 403 error

[–]YoMamma 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

Thanks for the explanation. I have to admit I think I've never met anyone who it seems would have called himself or herself a fakebian, bihet or feminine male. I also have trouble using the term 'them' to describe a him or her or a non-binary person, as that's just bad English usage IMO. I'm more familiar with people keeping that stuff to themselves, or at least not bothering me with their special words for themselves. I think that trans women look too much like men to be attrative to straight men, but I think a straight man who is somehow attracted to a trans woman isn't necessarily gay and attracted to other men, even if we could automatically think that. My view is that their sexual preferences are private matters for themselves, and that everyone has his or her kinks, even if initially unaware of them.

[–]gloomy_bear 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

Well the fakebians and bihets usually call themselves lesbians. Most of the feminine men now days transitioned into a mtf transsexual or a nonbinary generally. And with the they/them stuff, I don't understand language well, so imagine trying to understand that on top of not understanding language. It's hard.

[–]YoMamma 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Most of the feminine men now days transitioned into a mtf transsexual or a nonbinary generally.

Potentially makes sense, but I doubt this kind of information is available or quantified in a survey

[–]gloomy_bear 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Probably not, but for the most part, that's what I've witnessed.