I don't hate incels, but I don't like them either. This isn't based on judging others based on their ability to get laid. This isn't white knighting for 50% of the human population. An incel isn't just a virgin.

Incels are a specific intenet community who are both annoyingly arrogant and one dimensional. It is as though they had all come from or derived their worldviews from 4chan /r9k/. These are shut-ins who mainly experience the conglomerate, collective, sometimes fictional recounts of others especially the flood of depressive, relationshit greentext stories of /r9k/ in 2010s and some bad break up stories on Reddit.

Since then they have definitely spread to other parts of the internet. Their talking points and rants regarding "the roasties" are recognizable. They repost the same years old screencaps. The differences between their personalities is the anime girl they waifu and the genre of pornography they enjoy. They are sometimes indistinguishable from spam bots because of the reoccurring theme of their messages and how often they post. They are sometimes hostile to anyone they consider a "normie". They can be arrogant about the Japanese entertainment media they consume. That if something hasn't been distributed outside of Japan, they are better than you for knowing about it before you did.

I don't think incels should be demonized, but there is little to be done about this group of people. They have been a convenient raison d'etre of feminist internet activism; that anyone who likes video games, anime, and has a single negative word about feminism is an incel. Thankfully that era has ended. But the only people can really help incels is either themselves or their families.