r/askgaybros sparks wrongthink discussion. Ban soon, perhaps?

InigoEnFuego · 2020-08-22T09:13:12+00:00

I'd like to think that's the case but they banned true lesbians without hesitation. I think if they did ban it, it would peak a lot of gay men, but I also worry that they will find themselves without community and not know where to find others in the same boat. Maybe if they complain about us enough over there, those who peak will find as at least lol.

InigoEnFuego · 2020-08-07T17:21:49+00:00

I remember years ago reading about a "lesbian" wedding that was legal because of a "loop hole" and everyone was celebrating it as like... a sticking it to the christian right and about what a huge win it was.... it was a straight marriage... a woman and a man in a dress who thinks he's a woman, got married... and we were supposed to celebrate that as OUR win? fuck off... and the craziest part of it was that the greater LGBT community ate it up.

InigoEnFuego · 2020-07-28T15:23:14+00:00

lol You know 10 years ago I never would have thought we'd be fighting our own just to be ourselves so the idea that a future may come where we're in a fight alongside the religious who once vilified us... I guess I can't rule it out lol Would be nice if people just grew a damn brain though.

That sounds like a good technique. I'm often reminded of the quote "This too shall pass." A reminder that the human condition is constantly in flux and that one day this fad will come to pass and hopefully what will be in it's place will be better than it is now. Though even that will change again, and again after that, I just hope that the future LGB generations continue to fight to be seen and understood.

InigoEnFuego · 2020-07-28T15:11:28+00:00

You sound so chill, I'm gonna try and enjoy the little things more. Try being the operative word but it's this weird balance of... feeling like I'm not doing enough if I'm not engaging in the debate, vs making myself depressed because I'm swimming through a swamp of rampant homophobia and sexism in an attempt to fight it. I guess it's hard to accept that I'm just 1 person and while I can change a few minds, I can't change the world.

You know you say you try to be as truthful as you can in your everyday life, and I think that's genuinely one of the things that hurts the most. I hate lying. It just feels bad. It's like there's a roadblock in my head every time I'm asked to lie. I had to do a sensitivity training course at work and having to check the "true" box for things I don't believe made me feel like absolute shit. Though I do surround myself with others who are critical of the trans movement and that's a reprieve for sure. and I've recently started playing D&D with a group of like minded women and that's been amazing because I just feel like they allow me to breathe and speak the truth and even make light jokes about the ridiculousness of it all.

DM: There was a goblin attack... they came from the mountains...

Cleric: How many were there?

Me: No no... it's just one, but they're nonbinary.

InigoEnFuego · 2020-07-28T07:09:40+00:00

I fucking hope you're right. I just wonder how we will ever get back to sense when we live in the era of social media. It's a very different world than humanity has ever seen before and if we can't learn to debate and grow as rational people in the world of social media then we're just bound to continue fracturing until everyone just hates one another. I have to wonder if social media is just humanity sped up and we're just seeing the changes happen 10 times faster than before or if it's genuinely rotting peoples abilities to ever think rationally again.

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