Is thepinkpill.co down?

Hotpink · 2021-03-12T02:40:58+00:00

hopefully it will come back soon

Hotpink · 2021-02-08T17:20:50+00:00

Nah, they are implying that if you even feel the need to write bullshit on topics that have nothing to do with you, you must have nothing better to do in your life. Which in turn implies that your life is pathetic and boring. You can continue to waste your life here if you want to, but remember that all ugly, ignored and outcast women here still think you're pathetic and nothing you say can seriously upset us.

(And no, it's not the same when women write here - we write here to get stuff off our chests, to support each other and have productive discussion.)

Hotpink · 2021-02-07T19:44:23+00:00

You're hilarious.

Hotpink · 2021-02-06T20:29:06+00:00

How did you come to this brilliant and original conclusion?

I'll try explaining even though it was said thousands of times: sure, men are penalized for being ugly/short in romantic relationships, but man's worth as a human being is not tied to the way they look. Even if they are not good looking, it doesn't exactly stop them from making friends, they are allowed to be competent at work and they can make up for unfortunate looks with status and personality - all this builds confidence on a daily basis. Women, on the other hand, have to be attractive above all. No matter how competent I am, no one will give a fuck about my opinion at work, including other women. No matter what I achieve, my lack of husband and children nullifies that, so I can't have any long-term confidence from those achievements. If I work at a male-dominated company (so essentially where money is), men will deliberately ignore me, while they are friendly with other men (ugly or not) and attractive women.

Our situations are not even remotely similar. Men have male privilege, attractive women have pretty privilege, and unattractive women don't get any of that.

Hotpink · 2021-02-05T13:40:07+00:00

I totally agree. Though tbf, I think the advice to "just be more confident" is not wrong, but it's stupid anyway. I genuinely do believe that if you're ugly and just the right amount of confident (not too little, because then you're insecure and obviously no one likes insecure [ugly] women, and not too much, because then you're obnoxious bitch - the tolerance here is much bigger if you're conventionally attractive) you can be appreciated by your friends and coworkers and maybe even find a good partner.

However, acting confident and being confident are two absolutely different things. If you're just acting confident and feel silly doing that, people can figure it out from your body language - and if you're ugly they quickly pick up any red flags in your behaviour, while the same behaviour would be tolerable/quirky in a beautiful woman. The problem is, as you've said, that you can't just build real confidence based on shitty life. I've had fairly short periods of high/medium confidence in my life when some events and small successes drove me towards happiness and optimism - people would enjoy my company, men would even talk to me when they didn't have to (it practically never happens otherwise). But if 99% of your life is a failure, being invisible and feeling inadequate in literally every situation, how the hell are you supposed to feel confident?

If you're conventionally attractive, even if your life is not going great, you still get positive reactions from people around you. A small compliment even once a year, normal levels of friendly treatment, not having to fight for attention when you want to show your skills at work - these minor things build confidence all the time, but we don't get them.

Hotpink · 2021-01-27T19:23:03+00:00

I guess handsome men in happy relationships have better things to do than post stuff like that.

Hotpink · 2021-01-27T19:21:11+00:00

aaand we're back to posts about pretty girls on tik tok.

Hotpink · 2021-01-24T22:59:24+00:00

they've never seen a woman who struggles with dating (because by definition ugly women don't exist) in real life, so either they are fascinated with something impossible, or want to give as advice because obviously we must be doing something really stupid that could be fixed easily.

Hotpink · 2021-01-24T22:48:05+00:00

I know two couples like that irl. It's more common to find ugly dude + pretty girl if they are the same age though.

Hotpink · 2021-01-21T20:09:45+00:00

I was lucky once to become friends with people I lived with - it was years ago and we still keep in touch - but at other times my flatmates and I politely ignored each other or were downright hostile. I lived alone once for a year (cheap country) and you know what? I hated it and felt isolated and lonely. Now I dream of having a quiet house all for myself, but when that happened, I was rolling fast towards misery and depression.

I know we're young, I know that I could still do a lot, I still have passion and curiosity, but at the same time I feel so old, defeated and dead inside. If I fail again at what I started this time, I will have nothing and I won't be able to start over for the nth time. And I will have to live with that for another 30 years.

I'm really sorry you're in a similar situation. I hope it will improve a bit once the pandemic is over and we can have healthier lives. I also love walking around the city, also at night, but it's so empty and miserable now that I prefer to stay at home. I miss going to pubs a lot too (the only social activity I feel totally comfortable with). I'm just afraid that I might have difficult time readjusting.

Hotpink · 2021-01-20T23:37:28+00:00

I've had a bit too much time to think about my life in the last weeks, soo...

I'm in constant low-key panic. My career is going to hell because of covid - I barely have any access to my workplace and I have to be physically there to complete my work, but my contract is limited and if I don't complete my work on time, I will have wasted years of my life.

I'm lonely and either my "friends" left me or I left them (thanks to social anxiety). I don't feel the consequences yet, because I'm sitting at home worried all the time, but it will eventually come to me. I talk regularly to one person and every few weeks to maybe 3 more.

My parents are getting older and so many of our relatives died in the past 2-3 years that I'm afraid something might happen to them too when I'm abroad.

I hate my flatmates, but I can't afford to live alone, because I'm a grad student (doing research full time, not taking classes) and so I earn below minimum wage. I'm 30yo, I'm highly qualified with three degrees and I earn below minimum wage. Apparently I'm really bad at making reasonable life choices.

I have no hope for the future, I'll never have solid career, I'll never have family, I'll never get a date and most probably I won't even have any friends in few years.

Hotpink · 2021-01-16T01:25:44+00:00

I don't even know if that's double standards or outright misogyny. I get that women are supposed to speak gently and never say anything that could be remotely misinterpreted as being mean or bitter, but there is just no comparison between male violence on reddit and whatever upset women might say. I get physically sick whenever I accidently end up on one of the worse subs (I'm still sick after seeing the dismemberment sub long ago, I didn't imagine something like this could be mainstream).

Out of curiosity, was GC an issue on Trufemcels? I haven't seen any remotely transphobic posts for ages, but I don't know if it's mods' work or just not a big thing in this community.

Hotpink · 2021-01-15T11:16:41+00:00

It seems that it's easiest to get a sub banned by reporting GC content and I guess that's what men did to trufemcels. Banning of our sub is the most ridiculous thing I've seen - except for occasional harmless vent post, it was really mild.

Hotpink · 2021-01-15T01:26:25+00:00

Thanks for starting the sub here and the Discord server. For a few moments I was worried I'll never find this community again.

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