I agree with that last bit.

However, those things are not* stopping people from enjoying life. As I said, I was born into a cult, born into the rule of the my people's enemies. I have not had an easy life, in fact, I've long been surrounded by those who shirk away from knowledge, from learning, from experiencing (I forgive you for assuming). I have grown up, like many, in a human-centric environment which focuses on Subjective Reality rather than Objective Reality. So the topic may have levels of subjectivity to it, but that has no bearing on the actual discussion beyond "Well, I don't like this one ingredient, so I'm gonna focus on it rather than the whole enchilada."

My decision to love and accept life has nothing to do with others and how they've treated me. It was a personal decision, and one that is available to just about every human alive today, regardless of their personal experiences. Case in point, I've met folks who've escaped apartheid, who survived rape and attempted murder, and they agree with what I'm saying here. People who were born into a literal hell know what I'm talking about, because they also made that choice to not despair, but to accept and love.

I used to despair because of the situation of my life, because of the trials I faced, the evil that I met. It was an inner despair, therefore, it required an inner courage to defeat.

Everybody has this courage/ability (or what have you) within them. Most people, including many who despair, simply choose to not recognize it. Or, they choose to recognize the influence of that inner truth, but not the actual truth itself.

I am undoubtedly using some poor language. I will talk about this with anybody. Most people focus on the subjective feelings or thoughts that they have about their trials. This is, to me, immature, yet most I've met do this.