We agree pedophilia is wrong, we agree adults shouldn't have relations with children.

So all of a sudden, there's de-facto "good pedophiles" (often other minors few years older / young adults engaging with late teens / etc.)

That's what I totally disagree on. That would mean virtually every man and woman, by your standard, is either a pedophile or has been the victim of a pedophile. Who waits until they're 18 to have sex?

I understand if you find that inappropriate, minors engaging in those activities. I don't like it either. I've helped raise two kids to adulthood now though, and you either lock them up in their room after they hit puberty or they're going to do things. Like it or not, that's just how it is. It's not good, but they aren't criminals.