Yeah we all figured it was just because it was 'new' and he spent I think a few months playing with the costume makeup until the new thing came along. Then it was fire engines and whatever came after that.

You're right that if the child is being forced into one behaviour or another that more oversight would be a good idea, you might be able to catch something and get the child out of that environment. That poor child who went abroad though. I can't imagine how awful that is for them. Another worry there would be how cyclical abuse can be and if the older cousin was abused by a family member that may have access to the child. I wish them well in their recovery, young children are often quite resilient but that would be a lot for anyone.