I'm going to get murdered aren't I.

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[–]marymary[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

The thing is this guy has always seemed nice enough, I've never gotten a creepy vibe off him. I kind of wonder if maybe he isn't the brightest and is being swept along by online communities and probably too much porn? It's honestly quite hard to think that he's a danger to anyone but I wouldn't have expected this either. And I guess, not everyone who's a danger to other people is obvious about it. Or maybe I'm just a really shit judge of character and he's always been creepy and I wasn't picking up on it.

I don't really think I'm in any danger not at this point anyway. We're never alone together and there are a lot of security cameras in the building. But I'll definitely make sure I'm never locking up or opening up if it's just the two of us. I almost never drive straight home when I'm done. I think, to be on the safe side, I'll make sure I never do that. And I'll 100% avoid talking to him so much. I'm just hopeful that he peaks people rather than gets warmly accepted. Kids are honest, so the odds are, they'll laugh at him if he shows up in a wig and a dress. He might find that he doesn't get the big happy welcome he's anticipating and back off.

[–]hfxB0oyADon't piss on my head & tell me it's raining. 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I'd suggest backing as far off of interactions with him as you can. No casual talk, no nothing other than strictly what your job requires. If he's being encouraged by Reddit trannies who delusionally think that having his "womanhood" in common with you is going to make it easier to talk to you, then maybe giving him the opposite result will shake him out of this stupidity. And yeah, don't be alone in any situation with him. He's walking down the yellow brick road of mental disorders.

[–]marymary[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, I saw this guy this morning and he's now in 'woman' mode and was wearing a wig and a stuffed bra. When he saw me he did a big wave and smile and was clearly assuming I'd come and congratulate my new gal-pal. I just gave him a polite wave and largely ignored him for the rest of the session. I'm not going to be rude and shun him but I have no intention of talking to him one to one. I'll be polite if we end up talking in a group context but that's it. I don't coach him and if he says anything about coming to my lessons, I'll tell him, honestly tbf, that he's too advanced for my group.

I'm going to keep my own reservations to myself and let it appear that I'm fine with 'her.' While also watching him like a fucking hawk. That way, the minute he does something (more) inappropriate, especially if it's around kids, I can report him without it appearing like I've been waiting for him to trip up. I unfortunately had a case in a past job where I had to report mistreatment of children (nothing troony) and the management tripped all over themselves to cover it up. So if/when something happens with this guy, I'm going to make my complaint water-tight.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The people telling you to run are overreacting. Everything you said sounds reasonable and like what you should do. 👍

[–]QueenBread 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

My dear, you're part of the problem and when things get bad for you, you have yourself to blame. If some crazy asshole pulls that shit on me he's done for. I'm not going to "play nice", I am going to be in a place full of people and there tell him he's a man and he is making me feel very unconfortable. I won't look aggressive because I'm a small twig. But that is precisely why I will openly show how distressed I am. Because if you do get violent against a little twig, then perfect, that's when the cops come.

Or you can play the handmaiden and downplay it until things escalate. Just a headsup: suddenly pretending you're a woman is a mental illness most common among sexual predators. What else should he do to make you feel in danger? Pull his dick out?

[–]Athelhilda4 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

When someone shows you who they are, believe them.