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[–]Alienhunter糞大名 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I don't think it's autism so much as just general retardation, social retardation at least, a lot of the kids are smart but not wise if that makes sense.

The autistic types are there and while that runs the gambit from weird eccentric genius type to barely cognizant slightly verbal type, honestly they don't bother me much. Most of the time the worst they'll do is talk your ear off about some topic they care about but you don't. I usually humor them but try to gently steer the topic onto something we both like.

Nah it's more like there's a bunch of people who have all this self-hate and resentment towards themselves. I think it's a control thing frankly. Might be partly driven by anxiety issues. I think people like that are drawn to games and computers and the like since they can control the environment there, but it bleeds into real life and it's a mess.

Like in a game you have a set bunch of rules for what is and is not possible in the game and working around them to achieve victory is the goal? Or at least I think so, a lot of these people really really don't like losing and will get incredibly pissed if you manage to best them.

I think I was playing smash with someone years back who kept getting pissy when they lost since that was basically the only thing they were good at. And I'm like, mate you're clearly better at the game than me but you can only win 100% of the time when you do the totally flat stages and no items. I can play you the same map the same way hundreds of times but it gets boring. You'll lose when we actually set the rules to normal, because you can't adapt to the changing circumstances. But it's a friendly match, is winning all the time? Is every match being 100% fair important when there's literally nothing at steak? Yes? Alright then.

Life sucks for these people. Since shit is at steak and it's also not fair.

[–]Wanderingthehalls 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Ugh, my son plays Pokemon and loves it. The guy who owns the shop he plays at is the type that would probably have roared at that judge to get over herself though. (I have it in my head that the they/them judge is a she/her, though I have come across a few very annoying male NBs too.) But I do worry about him becoming a bit like some of the people you describe. I knew plenty of boys/men like that when I was a teenager and some of them grew up to be very awkward, unfulfilled men. My son is empathetic, can be charming and is naturally athletic though. So I have a strict rule that he can do all the nerdy stuff he wants but he has to keep up some sort of social sport too. I don't have to be strict about it because he's happy to do a number of active hobbies but if I have be to as he gets older, I will be. I'm not overly worried though, as even though he's still a preteen, he's already quite into looking good in front of girls and knows that in general, girls are more impressed by physical ability than gaming.

All that said, if he ever gets kicked out of a tournament for having a nervous reaction to being asked his pronouns, I will tear the place down. This was bullying a kid based on ideology. I would honestly lawyer up and sue for discrimination. I'm not a lawyer but I'm pretty sure I'd win based off what I do know of the laws in my country.