I haven't lost any friends yet but I absolutely would lose a lot if they knew how I really felt. Many of my friends from my favourite hobby group, most of my 'mom friends' and a lot of my friends from my 20s are all quite TRAish. I have developed ways of bringing it up in a 'test the waters' kind of way and I have found at least a couple of friends who feel similar to me.

I wouldn't mind too much if I lost the old friends or the 'mom' friends as my kid is old enough now that he has his own friends rather than being close to the kids of my friends. I'd be sad but day to day my life would be fine. But I really wouldn't like it to cause problems with my hobby as that's a sport I practice several times a week and I'm not willing to lose the happiness it brings me or cause issues for my kid who also plays. I'm also at a point of restarting work after taking time out to be a stay at home mother and I know if I was public about my feelings that would limit my options drastically in the field I'm aiming to get into.