a beaten down straight white man ... would have to actively try to sleep with men

Even then, the discourse surrounding "gay white men" is pretty toxic.

^{(not entirely undeservedly, in my opinion, I should add. But just like the also-deserved criticism of professional white feminists, it ends up getting hijacked by this weird determinism and demands for self-flagellation from the worst non-white Cluster-B narcissists.)}