Are you done having a stroke/arguing against yourself in a space that is not for you?

As if I have not contributed enough content to s/LGBDroptheT and s/Lesbians for every other human being who has paid even a little bit of attention to understand that I mean “feminine” in appearance only here, and that I in no way subscribe to gender roles verbally or in the way I live my life, and that you’d be hard-pressed to make any serious argument that I do.

Your point about “toxic femininity” is overstated. Being intimidated in trying to figure out how to flirt with women as a woman when that is something we have little guidance and examples of is a common experience for lesbians and bisexuals. Yes, lesbians have to deal with this head-on because we don’t have an alternative, unlike bisexual women. But recognizing that there is more difficulty here and involves more fear of the unknown hardly makes a bisexual woman honest, not a homophobic anathema.

Are there bisexual women who do seem to want to treat lesbians like they occupy the traditional “man” role? Yes, I’ve seen it. But I base that on a lot more than what I see here.