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[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

We're working off incomplete information, so no one will be able to tell you what was going on with this woman, even if we've done the same thing. I have used the "I have a lot going on right now" both as a low-effort excuse and because it was true even though I really liked the other woman, but the end result is the same: she isn't willing to expend any more time for you, and that's really what you need to come to terms with, because you'll likely never really know the "why" for sure. And this woman in particular sounds like she could have a million possibilities for why she's acting this way.

You're allowed to be hurt and angry and there's nothing wrong with taking some time to sulk over it (emphasis on SOME TIME, don't wallow in it). If you do go back on Tinder, put in your profile that you're interested in something serious and introduce the conversation somewhat early into relationship, though it's not a guarantee you won't get hurt again.

[–]verystablegenius 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Thank you. You're right. Knowing why isn't really helpful - perhaps even more painful - and no matter what, the fundamental is still the same. As you said, she is unwilling to spend any more time on or with me. That's all I need to know. I already feel better since creating this post. Thank you for your input.

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm glad you're feeling better and I'm sorry you were blindsided.