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As for "political" lesbians, where I am, this label is exclusively claimed by radical female separatists, and I'm fine with it. A woman who actively seeks potentially romantic friendships with women and has zero interest in men going forward is a lesbian if she says she is.

Disagreed. And I think it's really odd that you mention women who are attracted to men as being lesbians just because they say so when this thread is about goldstar experiences not "political lesbians." Lesbianism isn't an identity you can put on like a coat just because you're tired of men; it's an innate sexual orientation of women who are only attracted to women. That's so disturbing that you'd bring this libfem idea of "anyone is anything they say they are and no one can question it/self-identification is sacred" here.

"Political lesbians" are straight and bi women who are attracted to men (AKA not lesbian) and their desire to focus on women is usually driven by negative experiences with men rather than positive experiences with women and they're always homophobic, which is typical of women who think they can choose to be gay instead of just admitting they're bi/straight and don't want to be with men. They're appropriating an identity that doesn't belong to them; why can't they just say they're female separatists since that's more accurate than them being lesbians? Also, a lot of them say they don't want anything to do with men until FOMO hits them at 30-35 then suddenly they do, which is again not something that would happen to a lesbian.