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[–]SailorMoon2020 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

You know it’s okay to question things even if they’re good right?

Wrong. How long you been in America? You ever heard the expression, don't fix what ain't broken? Same applies to this: don't question what is good. When you fix something that's not broken/question something that's good, it makes the other partner self conscious that something wasn't right nor good to begin with.

I suggest you go to her and confirm to her the relationship is good. You only wanted to know why oral was a hang up. Tell her you respect her boundaries and you are there for her for when she wants to talk about it.

Keep in mind that your post about not wanting to call her they/them is not respecting her. Regardless of how we all feel about bi-naries, your girlfriend probably feels like shit and now you're coming at her for not going down. I kind of think she should leave you.

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    [–]SailorMoon2020 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    Is that not what you desired when you made this post? All any of us have to go by is your post history. We do not know you nor her; we only know what you have written. If you do not want us to dig deep into what may be causing your girlfriend to feel the way she does then why ask for our advice?