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[–][deleted] 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

It’s never made a difference to me either way. Everyone has something they don’t want to talk about, some times that may have been fucking a dude when they were trying to figure their shit out.

[–][deleted] 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

We are close in age, and honestly I’ve never known lesbians to think much of women having some uggghhh experience with dudes before coming out. It was a non-thing. Being a goldstar is rare. I’m a goldstar and haven’t met many.

When a woman has been with men more than a few times, over years, then it is questionable, imo, but it was totally not a big deal to have a small amount of experience with men in youth, I’ve never known lesbians to make a big deal about that.

Some of the women on late bloomer lesbians are sketchy as hell in my mind, but at the same time, we are not living their lives so it’s hard to truly judge it.

[–][deleted] 7 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

As long as it wasn’t recent “experiences”, or what I like to call “relations”, I was good with it.

[–][deleted] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah. I would ask when it was and if it stopped altogether. If those answers made sense to me I would immediately not give a shit.

[–]Seahorse 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Yeah I think this is a younger generation thing.

Nobody cared whether someone had or hadn't slept with a dude when I was a young lesbian.

The important thing was it was a past tense situation if they had.

I'm a gold star for reference.

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

So what you’re saying is I’ve become an old lesbian? How the hell did that happen?

[–]Seahorse 5 insightful - 4 fun5 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

I know I'm struggling with this too😭😂

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 5 fun4 insightful - 4 fun5 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

We are all screwed if young lesbians look up to me.