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[–]carrotcake 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

When I hadn't admitted to myself that I was a lesbian the presence of this one friend of mine would always irritate me so much. I didn't feel any sexual attraction to men and just because I admired them I thought I was bisexual and this woman was telling to my face that she liked fucking and kissing guys and that she did it for fun and how hot men were but she was a lesbian... No wonder why I was so annoyed. I told her so many times that she isn't a lesbian. Weirdly enough I'm kinda scared of telling her that I'm actually a lesbian. I'm worried that she'll dismiss me. She's a good friend besides that.

[–][deleted] 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Are you 18-25? Because I am seeing a disturbing amount of younger lesbians being told by other young women that lesbians fuck males (and not even trans id people), like random straight dudes with no gender anything. If that is what the young women are facing now then I really don’t envy them. In my generation of LGB youth, women would think you were actually nuts for saying you’re a lesbian who sleeps with men. This only started to really become noticeable after 2010. Sure, there were bisexual women who said they met their “one” man, but bisexual women i knew never said they were straight up lesbians while fucking guys because we ALL know that is total garbage

[–]sickofit[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I’m 18-25 and ive faced this. you're right that its mostly something happening with younger women. It’s happening enough that im seeing a shift in straight people where some of them used to think that only idiots would say they're lesbian while sleeping with men, but now they think that lesbians just like men too because their """lesbian""" friend does. The """lesbians""" who do this usually go out of their way to "educate" straight people about how lesbians are fluid and that's why they hooked up with billy last week. It’s spreading homophobia towards us, because now some people are treating us like we're just closed minded because we're not "fluid" like the other """"lesbians"""".

I’ve tried talking more openly about it, especially with guys. Actually, a while ago this happened to me and i just sort of "shot the shit" (idk if saying this right, worked night shift...) with the guy. He said he had hooked up with two "lesbians" before, repeatedly. I just told him we see girls like that in the gay community and they're so annoying that some of them even marry a guy and keep saying they're lesbians. He ended up talking about it with me casually and being like "I know right? they're always saying lesbian, not bi, no matter how many times we sleep with each other" and we both kinda bonded over saying they're dumb. He thought the stories i had about the things girls like this in the gay community say were funny.

[–]carrotcake 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

That's sooo disappointing. They can't see that they are contributing to men dismissing our sexuality?

[–]sickofit[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

In my experience, they know, they just don’t care. Plus it’s not just men who dismiss our sexuality, women do too. A lot of these girls are homophobic.