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[–]CHI_burbs_LEZ 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Stick to being honest with yourself first and then choose your wording rather carefully when being honest with others. Your approach can convey your opinion without blatantly offending someone in the same breath.

Personally, I have had one successful match that lead to a two year relationship, but sadly have been caught up in the “delete, re-download, rinse and repeat until death” cycle ever since that ended two years ago. So there is hope.

Being an extrovert who loves to meet and mingle, I find the best way to approach a first meet up is to treat it like it’s a casual conversation between old friends that haven’t seen each other since grade school. Honest answers are the best and curious questions help to keep the conversation flowing. If it goes well, fingers crossed that there’s a second date in your future.

What kind of qualities are you looking for.?

If I may ask.?

[–]emilyprentiss[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Oh definitely. There's a difference between being honest and being rude, and it all lies in whether or not you have tact.

I like your tip - to go into it like you already know them, and you're catching up with them rather than worrying about the introductions, how you'll come off, impressions. Thank you!

Honestly, I'm introverted, but I get along with both introverts and extroverts, so that's not really an issue. I'm just skeptical because I'm looking for someone who is honest, kind, communicative, and introspective. And in my experience, women with all of these qualities combined are usually offline, in a bookshop or in a café, and not on a dating app. (Not saying never ever, just saying it's rarer.)