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[–]VioletRemi 18 insightful - 11 fun18 insightful - 10 fun19 insightful - 11 fun -  (7 children)

For introvert like myself this sounds like some kind of heresy or blasphemy :D

[–]Jessica1993[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

Well for some, even being gay is heresy and blasphemy, i'm willing to be more open minded even though i'm not involved in it, like i said as long as it doesn't concern me, people can do whatever they want and i shouldn't be able to judge them just based on my notions .

[–]VioletRemi 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

It is hard to see it normal, because how much it is fetishized and pushed on us. So it is not clear if people wanting polygamy is their own wish, or just what society want them to be.

I am not judgging others choices as well, but for me it is something beyond understanding.

[–]Jessica1993[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I mean if it was the typical FFM threesome or relashionship i would agree with you, especially how it's so male centered but three girls without any man involved in it, i don't see how it's fetishised or pushed on us but every person is different, just because we are all lesbians doesn't mean we are a monolith, just like straight people, we have different views and lifestyles and we should respect that and not shame one another, especially in such a small community like ours .

[–]VioletRemi 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Well, even FFF or FFFF, etc, all is sexualized, at least here. And when decade ago I was checking porn there were often "lesbian orgy" (maybe it is less popular nowadays, tho?).

And as I said, I am not shaming, I just can't understand that.

just because we are all lesbians doesn't mean we are a monolith

Well, only thing that is uniting us - is that we all loving other women and only women :)

[–]Jessica1993[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I mean tbf, anything is sexualized, even normal lesbian relashionships, does that mean we should stop loving who we love because some pervert out there might get off at the idea of us being together ? And yeah i agree about your last point .

[–]VioletRemi 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Fair point.

[–]yayblueberries 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This anti-shame bullshit and never possibly hurting anybody's feelings ever is ridiculous, there are people who are greedy as fuck, even if everybody seems on board it is highly possible one person is only "consenting" to a poly relationship or a threesome out of fear of upsetting their partner and the one who wants it is greedy, sex of all three has NOTHING to do with that.

I'm also sick of the attitude of better not upset other lesbians in other way because the community is so small! I'm not catering to an entire goddamn group just so I can find one partner. This garbage is leading right to homosexuality being about having a club membership, not an inborn, probably genetically based sexual orientation. Fuck that.