you are viewing a single comment's thread.

view the rest of the comments →

[–]LesbianInExile 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I can relate to this, partly as something I've internalised but also just partly based on the way straight women have behaved towards me and other lesbians (ie it's real concern based on real world attitudes from and experiences with some straight women). I don't have an answer - at times I've avoided straight women and only hung out with straight men and with other LGB people and stayed in the closet around any straight women I have to deal with. At times I have tried to trust and be friends with straight women but (based on past experiences) I am cautious about being out around them and even with the ones I do trust I am still very mindful of how I behave around them (eg wouldn't compliment their appearance, wouldn't hug them unless they initiated it etc).