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[–]carrotcake 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I relate to this in a way. I always felt really uncomfortable with girls changing in front of me and to change in front of them, was always scared to even look at them if they were talking to me while changing their clothes. When I started to realise I liked women, I stopped being affectionate and being able to touch my female friends like I used to. Or even saying things like I love you. I also think that one of the things that kept me from being out earlier is that I knew my friends would all be somewhat ok with me liking girls but they wouldn't be 100% ok and it would make things uncomfortable. Luckily most of these straight friends became better people with time and maturity, so I haven't dealt with any homophobia from them after I came out. But I'm also used to shun away from my life people that won't accept me so maybe I only stayed friends with the ones that would be fine with my sexuality. Oh and I also relate to the betraying the sisterhood thing. As women we have so much in common, I like talking and sharing experiences with straight women so I hate making them feel uncomfortable?

Anyways that's my experience. Idk if it helps. I really agree with you that being confident is the way to go. Most lesbians that I've observed that are treated normally by straight girls are really confident in themselves and in their sexuality. I stopped feeling so awkward around straight women or any topic that touched sexuality while around them when I became more confident. I feel that talking about this with this one straight friend that is really close to you can be a good idea. Maybe it'll make you feel better. Good luck :)