you are viewing a single comment's thread.

view the rest of the comments →

[–]HighPlainsDrifter[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Maybe I just need to reframe sex for the time being then. I do think she is going to start losing some of the weight. The reality is that there might be more weight than before because some of the issues causing her to gain weight are not things that can be fixed through diet or exercise. I might ask her how she feels about finding an outside support like a therapist. I absolutely do my best to never make her feel like I am shaming her body or the realities of where she is right now and I try to support her eating healthier. I admit that we likely would never have gotten together if she was the size she is now when we first met but when I asked her to marry me it wasn't with the caveat that she always stay as attractive to me as she was then, so I do want to figure out how to continue being as good of a partner as I can, and for her that includes sex. So I guess I'll just have to figure out how to incorporate that until it becomes natural again.