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[–]reluctant_commenter 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah it is about bank accounts because being unemployed and not bringing in my own money can potentially be attractive to somebody who likes having power over others. I grew up in a household with a very controlling, abusive mother and one way she did that was financially and trying to not let me go to work.

I relate to this a lot, but never thought about it that way before. I would probably not even feel comfortable enough to begin dating someone, period, if I felt there was a chance of becoming trapped like that.