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[–]adultxhumanxfemale 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

If you find engaging with these """lesbians""" mentally harmful then just don't. You aren't required to turn them into sane, critical thinking people. Working on yourself by engaging in hobbies you enjoy, increasing your educational pursuits, and just generally focusing on yourself is a far better use of your time at this age when everything is so confusing and you're just trying to find your place in the world.

Life requires mental fortitude and lots of it. So why waste a single moment using finite energy on people who are definitely not worth it?

[–]throwaway080808[S] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Yeah you're right, I'll try to do that! Honestly the reason why it's so hard for me to just get over it is because I feel like many other lesbians are in this same situation but I can't help them and it burns me up. It's like I know people are suffering and I could do something but I don't know what to do. Anyways, this might be that I'm too empathetic.

Thanks for your message.

[–]CJLez 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Anyways, this might be that I'm too empathetic.

As someone who is a chronic helper/fixer - the saying 'you can't pour from an empty cup' is a good one for you to keep in mind. If you spend so much time helping people that you crash and burn yourself out you won't be able to help anyone. It's better to only do what you can (and if you need a 100% break from reaching out to people then that is fine) and then have the capacity to be there if someone really needs you.

[–]throwaway080808[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You're absolutely right, I'll try to remember that. Thanks!

Edit: Can I send you a DM to talk about that? I'd interested to know what you have to say.