Well that's a hot mess. Take a temporalspatial excursion with me.

Pretend that the place is say...North American continent, modern-day state of Virginia, on the coast and the year... perhaps, 1806.

Could you come up with a succinct model, understanding, and meaning-making of male homosexuality as we have today? Yourself existing in--not quite a vacuum, but a rarified atmosphere. Or would you be drawn to some dalliance that gives a quick answer?

Back to modernity, with its plethora of information... how to sort through all of it?

Both are extremities, but people... people have stayed the same. We want our quick, simple answers. To solve our immediate anxieties, so on, and so forth.

"I was so happy that I wasn't REALLY homosexual even though being labeled as an autogynephile is probably worse from a social perspective. I didn't care, at least I wasn't gay! That would just be SO terrible."

Everyone has their own idea of what constitutes social desirability. But doesn't that quote revealed how tortured their logic is?

Not homo. Good. AGP worse. But... homo worse-worse... It doesn't follow.

Back to Virginia in the year 1806. Could you expect the same? Circular reasoning. Anxiety around social desirability, etc.

I shouldn't have to point out the incredible anxiety, self-doubt, "what will they think of me?" so-on-and-so-forth of non heterosexuality, here. But it's applicable to this person. They're undertaking the same process, what's been foisted on them, and they are doing it with their novel variety in 2023.