LGB ErasureWhy can’t her hateful wife celebrate their newfound status as a heterosexual couple?

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[–]spanishprofanity 21 insightful - 13 fun21 insightful - 12 fun22 insightful - 13 fun -  (3 children)

I don't really get why she's acting like I died or something

from the people who brought us the term "deadname"

[–]MBMayfair 7 insightful - 4 fun7 insightful - 3 fun8 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

POW!! Right in the kisser! Nice! 👍

[–]INeedSomeTimeAsexual Ally 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I always hated the term. "My past name" doesn't sound so radical.

[–]fuck_reddit 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

They need to make changing your name into a extreme drama because around half of all people will change their last name at some point in their life.

I changed my name and when I tell people they just go “oh, ok!” And are polite.

[–]GreykittymommaMagical lady 💜 15 insightful - 8 fun15 insightful - 7 fun16 insightful - 8 fun -  (0 children)

I feel sympathy for the wife but her claiming to be "pansexual" is amusing. Not so pansexual now, eh?

[–]Q-Continuum-kin 15 insightful - 2 fun15 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I'm hurt because 1) it's starting to become more about her emotions than it is about my transition

I'm upset because I'm supposed to be the center of attention.

[–]hufflepuff-poet 13 insightful - 2 fun13 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I told my wife 3 days ago about my desire to transition, explained what I knew about the process, and offered to answer any other questions she might have. At first she was just caught off guard but she asked some great questions and I felt like things were going well; but now that we're 3 days into it, her emotional reaction to this is really starting to get to me. We've discussed different aspects at length in the last few days, and it seems that she has fallen into a depression as a result of the news. I feel terrible for hurting her, I just couldn't lie to myself anymore... I'm hurt because 1) it's starting to become more about her emotions than it is about my transition; 2) I don't really get why she's acting like I died or something (she's literally said that), 3) it seems like she's convincing herself to stay with me (I don't want to lose her but I would never force her into something she didn't want to be a part of), and 4) I just really wanted someone (my best friend especially) to just be happy for me. I feel like I ruined everything.....she's acting like this is some kind of tragedy and then turning around and being all clingy and lovey the next minute. I know she's entitled to feel however she feels, but where do I draw the line? I feel like at the end of the day, if she can't accept it the what's the alternative? I feel so alone.

The alternative could be NOT going on this delusional self-harm journey and destroying your marriage along the way.

You could just accept yourself as a butch lesbian... and not play pretend as a "heterosexual guy" 😒🙄

So many better alternatives, all ignored for one of the worst paths she could choose.

[–]Three_oneFourWanted for thought crimes in countless ideologies 13 insightful - 2 fun13 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

The same people who act like sexuality is about identified gender then turn around and act like it's a huge mystery that a straight woman wouldn't want to date a "woman"

Their own logic would dictate that the moment a person's partner's gender identity is no longer compatible with their sexuality, the attraction should stop. But the moment this seems to work in practice, they act like it's a personal attack.

It almost makes me wonder if they don't actually respect people's sexuality, and just say whatever is most convenient and would give them the most sexual partners through coercion?

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

It almost makes me wonder if they don't actually respect people's sexuality

they don't... sex isn't based on bodies/genitals, its based on what what the people think in their heads.

[–]TaseAFeminist4Jesus 7 insightful - 7 fun7 insightful - 6 fun8 insightful - 7 fun -  (0 children)

If you sort by controversial, the top comment is some clown who uses the phrase "at the end of the day" three times in a single paragraph.

Fucking Reddit... full of brainlets.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I just couldn't lie to myself anymore

Totally misses the part where if you do this to yourself, you're also doing it to your mate. If you're lying to yourself, stay out of relationships until you get your sh*t sorted. This is not difficult, for adults at least.

[–]automoderatorHuman-Exclusionary Radical Overlord[M] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

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