I feel you but I cannot reveal more details about myself why. But I also hang in similar spaces and thoughts close to yours occur to me. I hang out with a small circle of people, who are still on board with the ideology, one recently realized "they" are not "cis" but seemigly they still use pronouns matching their sex (besides for "they" being listed too) so no clue what's the deal here (I know that they aren't attention seeking person also -btw I used "they" to actually make sure of my anonymity) but I am actually relieved that apparently they don't really go transition route because that was my biggest fear and it pained me I couldn't really voice it without being seen as a potential transphobe (even if there is just so many red flags implying that their new identity comes from being a simply awkward person feeling unsafe).

The topic doesn't happen really often so it's tolerable - I don't feel like an impostor too often. I don't find it worth it to break a friendship of many years just because of this issue since the topic isn't constantly brought up. Also I think these people would be severely heartbroken and I know one person isn't in the best headspace right now... seriously. I am afraid what they'd do if they found it out. I am serious here.

I feel you on so many levels. There was many times (after my friend's come out moment - because I feared they'd go medical transition route what I would be unable to stomach) when I wanted to suddenly delete all my social media, come back under some new name. Well, I didn't do this for reasons I mentioned before. I hope that with time there will be more and more info popping out, which should make these people question the ideology itself finally.