Ooooh yeah, that's it, talk gender neutral to me baby

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[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

What's with the obsession of woke gay and bisexual people with being gender neutral? Is it internalised homophobia?

[–]Three_oneFourWanted for thought crimes in countless ideologies 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I don't get it. People still use "partner" super often as well, which just feels like you're intentionally hiding the sex of your partner. In homophobic areas, it makes sense to use gender neutral language so you don't need to lie and flat out say you're straight, but in a setting where people are accepting of gay relationship? Just call him your boyfriend or husband and call her your girlfriend or wife. Especially when straight people use partner, it's annoying. The term was used to hide the fact that we're gay. It isn't a fun and quirky thing to say.

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

"Partner" is for two people who live together as if they are married but are not married. If you are married, just say husband or wife. And if you’re in a civil union, say civil partner. If I ever get married, I’m calling my husband my husband and not my partner. I’m more interested in being honest than forcing a gender neutral utopia on a human species who are sexually dimorphic.

[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

People still use "partner" super often as well, which just feels like you're intentionally hiding the sex of your partner.

It also makes it sound (to me, anyway) like, instead of you being a couple... you're a law firm. Rather lacking in romance! Seems weirdly impersonal.

Yeah, the appeal of these neutered, bloodless terms is lost on me, too. Personally, I'm fond of using "bae" for a girlfriend/"boo" for a boyfriend-- creative and cute (imo), but without this strange "biological sex? what's THAT?" vibe, plus it's well-suited to bi people, since it comes in both a male and a female version. But of course, the good ol' fashioned girlfriend/wife or boyfriend/husband works just fine.

Maybe these gender-neutral terms are yet ANOTHER way of catering to the "kweers"-- so as to protect them from the horrible truth that they're really, yanno, straight. If all the SSA people are referring to their boyfriends/husbands and girlfriends/wives as "partners", then the spicy straights can pretend that they aren't actually always dating/married to someone of the opposite sex. And thereby keep their "I'm sooooo GAYYYY" delusions intact. Not, of course, that they're fooling anyone besides themselves.

[–]Neo_Shadow_LurkerPronouns: I/Don't/Care 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

They want opression points, as being gay and lesbian nowadays is nothing special on woke circles.

That is, if you're not straight.

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Forget about toxic masculinity or toxic femininity. Toxic androgyny is a bigger a problem. Especially in cities.