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[–]jim_steak 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I think it's definitely possible that gay men push other gay men to transition, I don't know how common it is though. There are a lot of gay men who buy into gender ideology, where the dominant narrative is that being trans is like being gay and that by denying it you're harming yourself. Some of those people might be well meaning.

I think there's also a recognition in liberal spaces that you'll never get in trouble for pushing transness or suggesting someone may be trans, which leads to people being more comfortable making that suggestion than they really should be.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Hm you're probably right. Another reaosn though why I feel some masculine gay men may do this to men like me is because they don't want to feel guilty for not preferring feminine gay men. The whole "Masc vs Fem" argument is a tale as old as time in the gay sphere and there's no denying that majority gay men tend to prefer mascuuline men and I feel like a portion of these men don't want to feel guilt for not being attracted to feminine gay men so they use the whole "I'm not attracted to feminine men because I like men (masculinity)". So they try to delude themselves into thinking they don't have internalized homophobia by acting like we feminine men are not men at all so of course they wouldn't be attracted to us which is foolish and silly because they don't have to be attracted to us.

I think there's also a recognition in liberal spaces that you'll never get in trouble for pushing transness or suggesting someone may be trans, which leads to people being more comfortable making that suggestion than they really should be.

This is a good point. It's depressing...