Sometimes I feel this way too (though I honestly don't check radfem spaces, the only thing we align with is being gender critical, skeptical of what's currently happening but I really don't like radfems approach and usually one-dimensional interpretation to it to serve their agenda) but I then realize that I never really had issues with trans people themselves. Before I got deeper into the issue I saw trans people as the old school transsexuals, who go through psychiatric diagnosis, treatment and their dysphoria was there since basically forever... shit changed when I realized these are the minority of today's trans people. My problem isn't being trans meaning a person, who deals with a clearly neurological condition as originally understood. My issue is people, who never thought of themselves being trans, suddenly jumping onto this identity and hurting, confusing themselves. And then also malicious people using this identity to harm others. Well, does it make me a bad person to come from this perspective on my current trans skepticism? I don't think so.