Good lord, do I have a story for y'all! To preface, I have two dear friends who have been a couple since high school, man and woman, but the woman now identifies as a man; "he" is a textbook transtrender, "he" fell deep into the trans rabbithole because that's what you do on tumblr. "He" is also a wicked fujoshi, and cannot understand why fetishizing gay men is wrong. I will call the man Dave and the "transman" Alex.

Dave and I were at a convention, in artist alley looking for buttons; I wanted a lipstick lesbian flag button, the classic red and pink. We could only find one table with any real pride buttons, with traditional ♡-shaped hearts, and anatomically-correct hearts, also pride-colored.

First the artist tried to pressure me into getting the orange lesbian flag "because it's more inclusive, you want to be inclusive, don't you?" I told her I hate the color orange, I want pink. She relented. Dave said he wanted to get something for Alex, and I suggested a Fujoshi button, since Alex is one. Well, the artist heard us calling Alex "he" and insisted it had to be a "Fudanshi" button, since that means "rotten -boy-" and "Fujoshi" is "rotten-girl-". At that point I was fed up and walked away from the sale. Dave is unbothered by SJW issues and just bought the two buttons. (I got the pink flag button 😎)