Fair enough but would you accept that if someone didn't say they don't date people of a certain race but aren't racist? Maybe they're just not attracted to certain features commonly seen in a race or find one trait that a given race just lacks as unattractive. I just can't accept someone saying they won't date all trans people aren't transphobic but someone that says they won't date people of a certain race is racist. To me it's the same thing.