I'm not entirely sure why and it's something I'm going to have to unpack a little but I find myself feeling empathy towards a lot of these young 'transmen'

Of course you do, radfem and radfem alligned always feel empathy and sadness for their lost sisters, the current narrative in your circles is "aww poor girl was raped that's why she is a trans gay" but in reality most of these kind of women are autoandrophiles who have been fetishising the gay male experience through media such as yaoi. I can use the same logic towards MTFs and say how they are misguided young boys who never had any positive male figure in their lives, but this sort of argument is always met with autistic screeching by your kin. Please spare me the hypocrisy, I have seen enough TERFcel/radfem types excusing bad behaviour from delusional straight females.

I have empathy for those MTF and FTMs who are brainwashed into this but not this type of loud homophobic fetishists, these are often the most egregious heterosexual men and women who simply have no shame in displaying their fetishes and infiltrating the homosexual liberation movement. We don't stop calling the straight male fetishists all kinds of names under the sun but lo and behold when the fetishist is female suddenly its "aww I feel pity for them uwu"