LifestyleNot knowing if you can continue living in a world of Gender Woo as a Gender Critical person?

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[–]GoValidateYourselfuseful lesbian 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Kai this was so hard to read. 6 years ago I went through a bad spell of depression myself, even had a whole suicide plan. Looking back I'm so thankful I went to the health clinic instead of following through. It's hard to imagine a positive future when you're depressed, and with the schism happening in the gay community now, and feeling like the world has gone insane, it definitely adds to the stress. Please know that your life can change and get better in ways you never imagined. I never thought I'd meet anyone, but then I met and married the most amazing woman. I met gay friends who I never thought I'd meet. Finally people to relate to irl! Some of them don't agree with my gendercritical/radfem views but most, surprisingly do when you strip away all the labels and just talk about it in terms of policies and ideas. We also give each other space to disagree, and to just change the subject when we need to. That's okay too. I hope these things help you see that the loneliness and depression won't last forever, and life can change in wonderful, unexpected ways. Please don't do anything to yourself, try to talk to someone irl. Maybe a family member or a health professional. I only know you online, but I care and hope you think carefully before doing anything permanent.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thank you for the adivce and kind words. I'm feeling a lot better now then I did when I wrote the post. Granted depression is something I've dealt with since middle school but I know that it doesn't have to last forever. You're right that it sometimes does feel hopeless since this trans madness has poisoned and riddled itself in gay spaces converting gays and lesbians to swallow it with no question. I think it was just a lot to take in when I started getting banned from the places I used to hang out in and chat with others and then seeing all these horrible things written about me and I had no way to defend myself since I was blocked. But I do want to keep trying and not give in or give up. I just need to remember that things can change in time and I'm hoping the same can happen for me as well and hopefully for the better.

I just don't have any personal friends or family I could talk to about this. I mean I've talked with my brother who's gay about my views and he thinks I'm crazy and "spend too much time on the internet" because he's not aware how trans is affecting women's rights and spaces (or he doesn't really care since he's not a woman and all his female friends are fine with trans-identified men using women only spaces). There is one person who I feel might not fully buy into trans but I'm not sure and I'm afraid if I talk with her about it, she'll just think I'm "transphobic" and I just don't think I can deal with another one of that right now. But yeah, I just don't have anyone IRL I can talk to about this stuff who agrees with me. If things do get worse, I'll more than likely just seek a mental health professional .

Hearing your story does give me hope though that maybe my life can turn around too. Thank you for sharing yours, it really helped.