Gay MenQuestion - why are some straight/bi women offended by my inability to find them attractive?

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[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Agreed but I would say that rather than being biologically meant to think a certain way I would say that it's an easy way of thinking. Biologically we are in flight/flight mode. It's not impossible to overcome but most people find it easier to go with "the norm" even if that makes them unhappy because it avoids having to engage in flight/fight. Avoiding that is a key driver for people.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Well, it's biological because we got this desire to have sex, to cuddle, to have emotional connection, that's all biological. Lik we also evolutionary programmed for approval, and loliness and pain for rejection is kinda our mechanism to search it, as it was necessary for survival. But we are rational enough to overcome it, it is just not easy. I think for men is even worst because their libido is just higher.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes it was pretty bad in my teens and 20's. I actually looked into medication to lower it but its super risky to do and im not even sure there is medication for it. My libido dropped in my mid 30s to a tolerable level.

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I just wanted to add that I probably framed my position wrong. I agree we have biological needs etc but we also have the ability to overcome it and thats biology as well. So what I was trying to say is that we are not bound to those behaviors even if they do provide nutrients for our soul if in good company.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, we can as we can control our thoughts and emotions. Just difficult and might feel like there is a missing thing as we are programmed to have that kind of relationship, but it isnt like you will have to be miserable and thinking about killing yourself like incels think.You can manage to be content on your own, and that's actually what real peace is, being fine by yourself, as you cannot control others people .