There are some connections between gay marriage and neoliberal gender ideology. But it’s not so much that it’s because legalising gay marriage would automatically lead to this ideology becoming prevalent in the country that legalised gay marriage. There are a lot of factors at play that contribute to the spread of this ideology.

Yes, gay marriage was legalised in New Zealand (2013), Great Britain (2014), the US (2015 nationwide) and Ireland (2015), around the same time this woke gender ideology took off in those countries. And because the US is such a powerful, influential country, it wasn’t a surprise this shit spread across the western world. But explain Canada - gay marriage was legalised there beginning in 2003 and legalised nationwide in 2005, yet Canada remained a sane country until 2015 when Justin Trudeau became their prime minister and woke culture had infested the US. Plus, woke culture isn’t so bad in the Netherlands, which has had gay marriage since 2001.

But guess what happened around 2013-2015? Social media. Yes, it’s existed since the mid-2000s, or even before that. But social media didn’t become mainstream until 2009 or 2010. Before social media became mainstream, you could have a debate about virtually anything in most western cultures. You could have an opinion that is extremely unpopular, and as long as you weren’t advocating child abuse or inhumane behaviour, the worst that could happen is that somebody would initiate the debate. Now, we have echo chambers online where dissent is not allowed, because the social media platforms we're on employ algorithms that give the user only results that connect with his or her ideology, so he or she rarely comes across the other sides of the debate. Plus, if you make a post on social media, you get likes, which unleashes dopamine hits and can lead to narcissism in certain people; the same kinds of people who participate in gender ideology. And when you look at the social media platforms that are dominant in society, you can look at the place as well as the time. Facebook, Twitter, Google and YouTube are all headquartered in Silicon Valley, and the CEOs of these companies are friends. It really makes you think.

Another element of this ideology to consider is the fact that most of the people spreading this shit are teenagers or young adults with no experience with life. You could say that people in these age groups act like all of their opinions are gospel because of lack of experience and lack of humility. And we all know that teenagers tend to be rude and arrogant, at least nowadays. But wait a minute, weren’t there times when most teenagers were polite and looked up to adults? I definitely think so. But forget about teenagers, pre-teens are even worse these days. So whats the deal? Lack of discipline in youths. Now, I’m not saying that parents need to smack their kids - some people need it, let’s be honest, but I know lots of people who were never smacked and they’ve turned our normal. But we live in a culture where the idea of letting your children learn from their mistakes, saying no to your children when we want sweets before dinner or want to stay up late on a school night, or punishing your children for misbehaving is considered abuse. Hell, if a father yelled at his son nowadays, there is a chance some idiot is going to yell at the father before figuring out why the father was cross with his son. Children obviously need love, support, nurturing and care, but discipline does help to prepare children for adulthood, because actions have consequences and life is tough.

But it’s not just the lack of discipline, but also how kids are raised. A lot of parents nowadays just give their children iPads to "keep them quiet". I’m all for letting children use iPads, but they shouldn’t be on them all day long. But a lot parents these days are lazy and they don’t want to interact with their children, so they just give their kids these electronics to use until bedtime so the parents can chat with their friends and watch TV. Now, obviously parents need a break now and then, but they need to give their kids something to do. When my parents took me to restaurants, they expected me, my brother and my sister to behave. So they included us in conversations. And if a restaurant had an outdoor area or somewhere kids can safely hang out, my parents let us go outside to play or explore the establishment - but they also told us not to go into restricted areas, make a mess, cause a scene or interact with strangers. Whenever my parents visited friends or family and I went with them because I was too young to be left alone, I went outside to play, explored the hosts' house or watched TV - my parents told me not to touch valuables, break stuff or enter rooms I should not be in, and they made sure the host was comfortable with me walking around their house while also making sure that I could entertain myself. But now you have parents who just give their kids iPads so they’d sit at the table and keep quiet while the parents talk with their friends and ignore the kids, which is child abuse. Kids need to move about because they have so much energy, and they bored very easily. A lot of kids don’t play outside anymore "because it’s too dangerous", and a lot of parents don’t send their kids to extracurricular clubs or societies to keep busy because "it’s too much effort". But one of the most damaging aspects of modern parenting is that both parents work all day and they are too tired from work to bond with their kids when they come home. But most parents have to work nowadays because the cost of raising a child has gone up exponentially while wages and salaries have not gone up as much. And oftentimes, most parents work in soul-crushing, dead-end corporate jobs that drain them of their mental and physical energy. Ideally, one of the parents should stay at home and manage the household; doesn’t have to be the mother but it should be parent who earns less money or the parent who has less job security. But if both parents have to work, then the kids should be looked after by their grandparents, the neighbours, or any adult who is close to the parents; not by a nanny (unless the child or the family have special needs), or by a daycare centre. I heard that 65% of Dutch grandmothers and 60% of Dutch grandfathers are the primary caregivers of the children. It’s the same in countries like Japan, China, Vietnam or Cambodia, where both parents work and the grandparents live with or live close to their children and grandchildren. And if you ask me, it’s a very sustainable method of child rearing, because not only are both parents able to work, but the grandparents are involved with the family and given incentives to stay energised and lively as opposed to being isolated in a nursing home where they lose the will to live, and the children are being raised by familiar faces who care about and love them. But when you look at the west, you see a lot of grandparents in nursing homes, a lot of children raised by daycare centres and television and iPads, and a lot of atomised families. And such families are vulnerable to this gender ideology.

Even without gay marriage, this trans ideology would have taken off. For example, Chile still hasn’t legalised gay marriage (they have civil partnerships), and Chile already has self-ID gender identity law that even allows 14 year olds to change their genders and get sex change operations. Same with Bolivia, which didn’t even have civil unions until a court ruling late last year. Now look, you don’t have to be in favour of gay marriage if you were raised to believe it’s between a man and a woman, but gay marriage is not solely responsible for this madness we’re dealing with.