So, there's a lot going on in this post, but the correlation between GNC kids growing up to be LGB is actually substantiated by numerous large and small scale studies: http://www.sexologytoday.org/2016/01/do-trans-kids-stay-trans-when-they-grow_99.html That's what it is, a correlation. I don't think anyone is saying there's inherent causation, and if they do, they're being disingenuous. I'm not sure why there's a correlation between being GNC as a kid and growing up to be LGB, but it does exist. I would say it's because LGB is so invisible in media, etc., that gay kids often "identify" with things associated with the other sex. I often dressed up for Halloween as a prince instead of a princess, for example, because I always related to the princes marrying the princess in all Disney/fairytale stories.

"homosexuals have an easier time being gender non conforming" I think is an objectively false statement, and I'm curious as to where you've gotten that impression. Butch lesbians and GNC gay men receive far more homophobic harassment in school and elsewhere in public spaces because they're more visible. I've received far less homophobic harassment since I started dressing more feminine than when I was a tomboy. I have no idea what goes on in gay male communities, but for lesbians, lesbian spaces are pretty much the only place butches and masc women can find support for being GNC.

I don't see how straight GNC people being targeted for misplaced homophobic harassment is the fault of gay people, especially gay GNC people. That's the fault of homophobes. I'm not sure what we're supposed to be doing about that. Edit: I think the main problem here is the suggestion that "the way to get ride of homophobic harassment is to get rid of the stereotype that being GNC means you're gay" when this doesn't get at the root of the problem, which is "why is it a bad thing to be associated with being gay"? Ultimately, it's homophobia that drives this harassment. If people accepted LGB as natural, no one would harass GNC straight people for their sexuality or how they dress/behave, no one would harass anyone for their sexuality and dress/behavior in general.

You are right that no one conforms 100% to gender roles as a kid, which is why they should be abolished.

There is a difference between fixating on children's sexuality and acknowledging that LGB children exist and need to be given the message that it's okay for boys to have crushes on boys and girls to have crushes on girls, and it's okay to dress however you want, regardless of who you get crushes on. If I had known lesbians existed as a child, that men can marry men and women can marry women, and been taught a message that homosexuality is natural, it would've saved me a lot of self-hatred, loneliness and depression growing up. There is nothing pedophilic about letting children know in an AGE-APPROPRIATE manner about same-sex attraction. Key word, age-appropriate.

Also, your last comment is... very strange, and I'm unsure what you're trying to say. I think anyone who looks at a child and thinks "this kid is going to grow up to be a sex object for men!' obviously has weird pedophilic tendencies and is also deeply homophobic because they inherently see gay men as being sex objects. I mean, if a boy were to come out by saying he has crushes on other boys, and a person's starts thinking about all the butt-sex the boy must be having when he grows up, that's because that person is just fucked up. I don't think that association has anything to do with acknowledging the fact that kids can be gay.