LifestyleHow do you think you appear to others once you've disclosed that you're gay/lesbian/bi?

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[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian[S] 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Most of the times I've told people, it's mostly to stop them from continuously saying 'when are you going to get a boyfriend' or trying to set me up with guys they know. I know it's a common talking point for families, but you get sick of it after a decade.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Ah yeah, I know very well the annoying question about personal life. That is especially common in italian families gatherings lol

I still don't see the need of telling the truth. Just say you're single and if they keep annoying you, let them understand to quit. Easier said than done, I know

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian[S] 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Mine's Serbian, but there's Greeks and Italians at the gatherings most of the time too.

Fair enough. I'll try that in future.

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 11 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Serbia, it's really conservative, isn't it? Must to be another reason not to tell. I mean, it isnt like I'm a against telling it to the right people. My parents know, me and my father talked about it weeks ago and told me to find a gf lol It was nice to know he is comfortable with it, for a sicilian men in his 60's, it is quite the thing. But in general, people shouldn't know, unless you got a girlfriend and then you absolutely need to tell others she's your girlfriend, because it isn't nice to pretend you're just friend, when you're lovers

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, it's their religion (Orthodox Christianity) that makes them conservative more than anything. I only told a few close family members. The youngest was glad I told her earlier rather than later, an older family member thinks it's a phase because I lost my father at a young age and therefore 'became a lesbian' to deal with it, and the oldest is alright with it, but told me not to tell anyone else in the family. I'll have to tell the rest of the family when I've got a girlfriend, but it might be a while because of this current mess with LGBTQ and the tiny dating pool/lack of gay/lesbian venues in my area. Until then, I'll stick to saying 'oh, I'm studying/working. I'm too busy to date anyone right now lol' when I get the dreaded question.